3 Reasons To Embrace Your Flaws
Everyone has flaws, it’s a fact of life. Even those who portray flawlessness – I’m looking at you Beyonce – are flawed in one or another. But let it be known – having flaws doesn’t make you a bad person.
I’m a people pleaser, and you may wonder – how is that a flaw? You like making people happy, that’s a great thing! And it is……to an extent.
You see, I’m such a people pleaser that I’ll put the wishes of others before my own. Because part of being a people pleaser is I avoid conflict at all costs. So even if I don’t agree I’ll still do what is asked as I don’t want any confrontation. I want to keep everyone happy, even if that means ignoring how I truly feel.
We all have flaws like this, maybe you’re a conflict avoider like me, or a “worrier”, or a “perfectionist”, or you’ve been told you’re “too dependent”. Flaws are weaknesses, there’s no question about that. However you can’t just do away with them, they’re a part of what makes you, you.
In fact, you should learn to embrace them because what most of us don’t realize about flaws is they are the flipside of our strengths.
Yes, I avoid conflict, but on the flipside I’m great at creating harmony and making sure everyone is included in a group. You may be a worrier, but on the flipside you’re amazing at figuring out logistics and planning. Sure you’re a perfectionist, but on the flipside you have an acute attention to detail. And maybe you’re too dependent on others, but on the flipside you’re a fiercely supportive friend, lover, and colleague.
As you can see, your strengths are supported by your flaws. If you were to get rid of your flaws, you’d no longer have your strengths. Not convinced?
Here are 3 more reasons why you should learn to embrace your flaws:
1. Flaws give wisdom and guidance.
They typically arise when something needs our attention. Think of them as your internal smoke detector, when the alarm starts going off, that’s a cue to be more aware.
2. Flaws connect us with others and allow for empathy & compassion.
We all feel anxious, or scared, or overwhelmed; they’re a part of living. If we didn’t experience these feelings we’d have a tough time relating to one another. Each of our flaws is an opportunity to feel our connection to humanity.
3. Flaws help us grow and change.
As mentioned flaws arise when something needs our attention. They create pain in our lives. And that discomfort is motivation for us to change.
Truthfully, at the end of the day, if we were good at everything, we wouldn’t have anything to work towards. So let’s take a stance to change our mindset about flaws. They’re not about being bad at something, but more like skills you’ve yet to learn. It’s all about self-development, not improvement.
Getting rid of your flaws will not make you a better or more valuable person. Why don’t you read that line one more time – getting rid of your flaws will not make you a better or more valuable person.
So let’s stop with the negative self-talk about our flaws, start observing them without judgement and begin using them as an opportunity to learn.
About The Author: Ashlei is the creative director of Kinks are the New Pink, a lifestyle blog dedicated to inspiring & guiding women to style life their own way. To her, style is more than how you dress, do your hair, or decorate your apartment – it’s about how you relate and create in every area of life. In her spare time she enjoys diving into a variety of passions including writing, reading, eating (preferably with a glass of wine or tumbler of bourbon), traveling, and working on her photography skills. She’s a soon-to-be Mrs. and resides in Chicago with her fiance, DCT, and 3 (yes, 3) cats.